i. Do not prioritize sex. The intensity of love cannot be measured by surrendering your “all”. Do not force your partner to do it if they are not ready for it. The strength of your relationship does not depend on this. It depends on the both of you, on how you will work everything out. It would not make you less of a person if you are not having sex.
ii. Do not take them for granted just because you know that they will always be there for you. They need constant appreciation and attention. You might still love them, but it takes effort and time to make them feel that you really do. You are one of those lucky few who were able to have someone by your side so take care of them.
iii. Do not rush things. Yes, you are in a relationship, but it takes time to earn their full affection and full trust. Introducing them right away to your family would be lovely, but how sure are you that they are the one? You would not want introducing different people every year. You still have a lot to know about each other so do not be prematurely sure about everything. Take things slowly.
iv. Do not bring up the past. They chose to be with you, so be happy about it. What matters is the present. Do not blame them for the wrongs they committed before you came into their life. It is not their fault. Your story is different.
v. Do not cuss. You may have a big fight, but do not ever say bad words. They will be strongly offended whether you address it to them or not. Be respectful. You are not fighting with just some other person. It is terrifying to be with someone who cannot control their anger.
vi. Do not bottle up everything that bothers you. Communication is vital in a relationship. Do not wait for things to get worse before telling them about your concern. If they are the one who has something to say, listen. Your relationship matters that is why they want to talk it out with you.
vii. Do not assume that a couple has to be together all the time. You must have your space at times. They are not the only ones you have in your life. You have your family and friends. Be independent. Do not hold them by the neck. Do not restrict them from going to places without you. Trust them.
viii. Do not be selfish. It is not only you who needs to be understood. It is not all about you alone. It is fine to make demands, but you have to consider their feelings too if they agree or not with you. Be fair.
ix. Do not have high expectations. Be contented with what they can give you. Do not force them to be someone they are not just to fulfill your needs. Everyone is unique so embrace everything that comes with them.
x. Do not say things that you might regret out of anger like saying goodbye. It would hurt them badly that they might not want to come back to you no matter how much you beg. Think before you speak.
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